Last weekend I attended the 59th annual general meeting of the Royal Heraldry Society of Canada in Victoria, BC and it turned out to be one of the most rewarding and enjoyable social events that I’ve attended in recent years.

Like most attendees, I’ve had a deep interest in heraldry since I was very young. I have always loved its symbolism, structure and beauty. Above all, I see it as a meaningful connection to something deeply rooted in our history and culture.

The Canadian Oxford Dictionary defines it as, “the science or art of a herald, esp. That of blazoning armorial bearings and deciding the rights of people to bear arms.” It’s a niche interest that I can’t really bring up in general company without the risk of boring people half to death.

In early 2023, I joined the Royal Heraldry Society of Canada to connect with others who share my interest. I’ve kept up with the newsletters and began the Heraldry Proficiency Program, but hadn’t attended any in-person events – largely because the Vancouver branch of the society disbanded several years ago.

When the society announced that Victoria would be the site of the 2025 AGM, I bought tickets as soon as they became available.

As someone who’s both middle-aged and autistic, I’ve learned to be intentional about seeking out opportunities for connection. It doesn’t always come naturally, but I’ve come to recognize how important it is for my well-being to spend time with others who share my interests. This AGM seemed like an ideal opportunity for both connection and growth.

I had never attended a heraldry event before, so I didn’t know what to expect. I was a bit nervous, assuming most of the attendees would be older and more established—people who might not gel with me, since I can be a tad ridiculous and, frankly, a bit much at times.

But the risk paid off. As is often the case, my assumptions were wrong—everyone I spoke with was friendly and welcoming and they genuinely seemed happy to have me there.

Many of the attendees were older men who’ve been involved with the society for decades—one had been a member since 1969.

Before the banquet, one of the organizers gleefully encouraged everyone to wear their “bling.” Everyone was well-dressed, and those with medals or ribbons wore them with visible pride.

I don’t dress up very often, and while I don’t have any ribbons or medals, I do enjoy wearing something ironed.

More importantly, I made some new friends who I look forward to seeing again at the next AGM in Ottawa. I also hope to connect with the BC/Yukon Branch to help get some events going in the Vancouver area.

Overall, I came away with the sense of an organization built to last. When I looked at the other attendees, I saw a hopeful vision for my own future.