Ouch

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I was talking to my father’s cousin today. I’m in the process of proving my US citizenship through my father. I need to prove that he lived in the States for a certain period of time. So, I called up one of his cousins, let’s call him “Joe”, and asked him if he’d write a letter stating that he grew up with my dad. A letter that says “He was in the States – I was there with him from this date to that date.”

Well, a few months back he agreed to write the letter.

Today I call him up to follow up. “I’m sorry but I can’t help you, I can’t write you no letter,” he says in a very dismissive tone. “Yo’ daddy left a lot of pain behind ‘im and I’m too old to be bothered with all that again.”

Ouch.

It took every ounce of will power to remain composed and not burst out into tears. I believe that he genuinely doesn’t want to revisit that horrid period of his life, I can only imagine how bad it was. But it almost felt like he was blaming me for my father’s misdeeds.

It hurt. A lot.

I am a resident of Burnaby, British Columbia, Canada who has blogged here for 20 years. I like to share my thoughts and feelings on my own online space. From 1998 until 2017 I worked as a journalist and I hope to use this website as an archive for all of my stories.

2 Comments

  1. Dolly Iris Says:

    April 1st, 2008 at 4:44 pm
    His response seems a little bit selfish to me. He may have been upset by the actions of your father but that is no reason to hinder your progress now. ”

    What she says was exactly how I feel. I think yuou should be a little more persistent. I think this guy wants to help you but has his own issues. Be a bit more understanding and patient and I am sure he wil crack.

  2. His response seems a little bit selfish to me. He may have been upset by the actions of your father but that is no reason to hinder your progress now. 🙁

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