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My response to that “sit your whore ass down” video

Okay, so I just watched this so-called “Sit your whore ass down” video which shows a scantly clad woman doing what appears to be some kind of public transit pole dance on Vancouver’s SkyTrain

I find this video quite disturbing:

It’s not the public nudity that bothers me so muchbut the man’s reaction to it.

While her behaviour, in my opinion, is inappropriate I think this guy’s reaction to her was way over the top. He calls her disgusting and demands she sit her “whore ass” down. He also mentions that he has a child with him

What’s worse, a public display of nudity or telling a child that it’s okay to call a woman a whore and tell her that she’s disgusting?

I’m shocked at how quickly this sexist bullshit comes out of his mouth. The guy is very emotional, loud, and abusive. It’s never okay to call a woman a whore like that

There were dozens of ways that he could have handled this situation without resorting to this kind of public abuse.

He could have just asked her to sit down, he could have told her that her behaviour was inappropriate, or He could have just called the SkyTrain police and let them deal with it. Every train has those little call boxes and yellow strips.

But At the end of the day It’s usually up to us to police public spaces like buses and trains.
But there’s a right way to do it and a wrong way to do it.

Here’s my response:

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  1. Hey Campbell! Thanks for your thoughtful comments.

    You raise a good question about what this guy (or girl) was doing filming this… I’ve seen a lot on the SkyTrain but nothing quite like this. I too now wonder if it was a stunt for some kind of low-budget porno.

    Standing up to some stranger exhibiting bad behaviour in public is, indeed, quite nervewracking as you never know how they’ll react. I try to focus my comments on the behaviour – not the person.

    P.S. Your blog link doesn’t work!

  2. Hah ok your video response is the same as your written response.

    I really do see your point about it never being ok to call a woman a whore and the whole making everything worse for the kids who were exposed to all the crap adult behaviour. My point is it’s hard for people to act or react the way they want to in abnormal situations where they feel threatened. Maybe this guy talks like that all the time, but maybe he doesn’t. Hopefully he doesn’t.

  3. Wow, I haven’t watched your response yet but the video…wth? Ok, I have ridden the sky train with my son when he was little. I did my best to imagine this happening to us and know for a fact I too would have been emotional in the moment. That would be a very weird thing to see on public transit. The words the guy used, super harsh, but what is this video? How could it even happen? Was someone shooting a porno or is this some random person who whipped out their phone to video the girl? If this is all real, my opinion is the guy was understandably emotional. The specific words he ended up using in the moment, not nice. The level of his voice is understandable too, it’s not a normal thing to have to tell a total stranger how to behave on public transportation and it’s also frightening to have to do it, especially if you feel a responsibility to speak up because nobody else is. I had to say something to a fellow passenger on a VIA train once. It was a very emotional and totally nerve wracking. K now I will watch your response.

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